When I was in high school I hated that we always had to learn about every holiday. I didn’t really understand the importance of it. I was always in a frum environment, was super aware of upcoming holidays and the customs that came along with it.
Fast forward a “few” years and here I am- the only way I’m reminded of holiday customs is from my kids projects. 🙁
I really want Yom Kippur to be different this year. I wanted to review a little about it before candle lighting time. I figured I’d share some of what I reviewed for those of you who are just like me. And for those of you who are also working on Erev Yom Kippur.
Inyanei D’Yoma- Yom Kippur
- Yom Kippur is the day of atonement. It’s when we ask Hashem to forgive us for all of our sins.
- Components of Teshuva:
- Azivas HaChet- stop doing the sin
- Charata- regret
- Kabala Al HaAsid- accepting upon yourself not to do it again in the future
- Viduy- verbal confession
- For sins done bein adam l’chavero (a man to his friend) one must ask the person for forgiveness.
- Erev Yom Kippur
- obligation to eat
- Viduy in Mincha
- Seuda HaMafsekes
- Kaparos can be done with a chicken, fish or money between Rosh Hashana and YK.
- The meal before YK is called the Seuda HaMafsekes. It seperates the time when we can do the 5 prohibitions and when we must refrain
- Say Shehechiyanu at candle lighting
- 5 Prohibitions of Yom Kippur
- Wearing leather shoes
- Anointing – use of perfumes, make-up, lotion
- Marital Relations
- We refrain from wearing gold jewelry, as to not remind Hashem of the Chet HaEgel (sin of the Golden Calf)
- There is a custom to smell spices in order to attempt to make 100 brachos during the day.
- We only wash our hands up to our knuckles.
- Tefilos of the day include- Maariv, Shacharis, Musaf, Mincha, and Neila
- The tefila of Kol Nidre is said the night of YK. It annuls all the vows we have made, but were unable to fulfill.
- On Yom Kippur we say “Baruch Shem K’vod…” after Shema out loud, while we usually whisper it
Wishing you all a meaningful fast!
Until next time,