A New Kind of Mom-Guilt

this isMom guilt comes in waves and you never know what will cause it. It could come when you compare yourself to others, see your kids struggling, or when you find yourself not managing the home front very well.

Lately though I’ve been feeling mom guilt for a new reason.

I’ve been putting in a lot of energy and time into my job. I’m at a place in my career where I really like what I do. I like the people I work with and overall like the entire experience.

I’ve been putting so much effort into my own career that I wonder if it’s too much. Am I losing sight of what’s really important in life? Am I spending too much time on developing myself when I should focus more on my family?

I haven’t become a workaholic by any means, but I take my job seriously and I’m trying to take advantage of some great opportunities. Almost every day I learn something new from the people around me and I’m slowly developing a new way of doing my job so I can be even better at it than I was before.

I think that the amount of mom guilt I feel depends on how much effort I put into other areas of my personal life/growth.

But is it a bad thing? Does personal accomplishment make you a worse mom? Maybe it can make me a better mom?

I guess I have to ask myself that question… are these personal accomplishments making me a better mom/wife or worse? Am I too stressed because I’m worried too much about what others at work will think? Is it causing too much stress?

Right now I don’t know any of the answers to these questions, but I keep them in mind at all times. I have to reevaluate every time something new comes along, but for now I will try to balance my needs vs the needs of my family.

I know there are no right or wrong answers. I’m constantly thinking because in 20 years I don’t want to look back at my life with any regrets.

I guess that’s what being a working mom is all about.

Until next time,
Shaindy

  • Zahava Markovic Berkowicz

    Feeling happy and fulfilled with your career is going to make you a better mother!